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You will find four statements describing the four main communication styles: Passive, Assertive, Passive Aggressive and Aggressive. You will also find a list of words associated with these four styles.
- Together with your child, you should classify these words into four groups according to the style you think they belong to. You might like to match some words to more than one communication style; this is possible.
- Think about the style you and your child’s teacher/carer usually use to communicate with each other (if your child has more than one teacher/carer, choose one of them). Write down some words which might help you to picture that style.
- Finally, try to draw a picture of your face and that of the teacher/carer while communicating with each other. You may like including some emoticons!
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Statement 1: Passive Communication Style: 
The person finds it difficult to communicate what she/he thinks, feels, needs, or desires about something directly. Often this person gives priority to others’ needs above her/his own ones, which may make she/he to think that she/he cannot make her/his needs known. Also this communication style can make the other party like as a winner.
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Statement 2: Assertive Communication Style: 
The person is able to communicate what she/he thinks, feels, needs, or desires about something clearly and directly. The person does it in a way which is respectful towards others’ opinions, feelings, needs and desires. By doing so, both communicating parties usually feel satisfied with themselves and with one another. There are no losers.
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Statement 3: Passive Aggressive Communication Style: 
The person tries to get others to understand what she/he thinks, feels, needs, or desires about something not by communicating it clearly and directly, but rather, indirectly. This person does not care much about what the other party desires. Often this leads the person to feel she/he won while the other party tend to feel that they lost.
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Statement 4: Aggressive Communication Style:
The person communicates what she/he thinks, feels, needs, or desires about something clearly and directly, in a way which is not respectful towards others’ opinions, feelings, needs or desires. By doing so, the person usually feels like a winner and the other party like a loser.
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